Storms
Jesus calms the storm
“And He got up and rebuked the wind and said to the sea, “Hush, be still.” And the wind died down and it became perfectly calm. And He said to them, “Why are you afraid? Do you still have no faith?” They became very much afraid and said to one another, “Who then is this, that even the wind and the sea obey Him?” (Mark 4:39-41).
Jesus said, “In the world you will have trouble, but take courage, I have conquered the world” (John 16:33).
Just like the disciples were terrified in the storm, our teens face storms every day—sometimes from social media, sometimes from the news, and sometimes in their own hearts. In the past few weeks, violent images of tragic deaths spread quickly across social media. Many teens saw these images firsthand on their phones, often without warning. I have been distraught thinking about this fact. How do we address the evil events that happen in our world with teenagers? How do you help your child make sense of it all?
I want to share some practical tips for talking about tragedy with teens.
Schedule a time to talk.
My favorite time to talk with my boys is in the car. There is something about that drive that opens itself to conversation. Another good time for family talk for us is at the dinner table. This is a great space to include my husband. Wherever you decide to talk, make sure to put the phones down, turn off the T.V., and avoid distractions. Get ready to LISTEN. Ask them what they know. What have they seen and heard ? Let them lead the conversation. They may surprise you with their insight and knowledge. As you talk, remind your teen that Christ listened to people in their fear and confusion. Listening is one of the ways we imitate Him. Your openness can be a living witness of Jesus’ patience and love.
Fast from social media.
If you find that your teen is distressed about recents events, it’s time to take a break from social media. Put the phones down and have a family movie night or game night. Allow time for the air to clear and the social media feeds to settle down. Just as the Church invites us to fast during Lent to make space for God, we can also fast from screens to make space for peace and prayer. Teach your teen that stepping away from noise opens the heart to hear Christ’s voice more clearly. Instead of scrolling on social media, suggest that your teen replace that time with journaling a reflection from Mass or attending a Holy Hour at school or the local parish.
Guard your words and actions.
Your kids will react to your response to any situation. Are you stressed and obsessed with keeping updated on the latest information? Stop it right now. I’m not meaning to sound judgemental or harsh, but if you are allowing worldly events to steal your peace, I am trying to help you. When the headlines tempt you toward outrage, let the Gospel of the day be your anchor. Divine providence often places before us the words we most need to hear. Our teens learn what Christian hope looks like by watching us. When we model calm, trust, and prayer instead of fear and anger, we show them how to live as disciples in the world without being consumed by it. Below is a recent Gospel reading heard at Mass following the wake a tradegy.
Jesus said, “Love your enemies.”
Talk about Divine providence! What a timely message from our Creator. We are called to pray for ALL of God’s people and allow Him to be the judge. The pressure is on Him.
Guide your teen to look for role models in the saints or within the school community (teachers, coaches, ministers) who live out Christ’s peace. It is important that they see the good in the world.
4. Jesus is the answer
Death doesn’t make sense without Jesus. He is our hope. You don’t have to have all of the answers. God has given us what we need in Scripture. Scripture isn’t just an old book—it’s the living Word of God. In times of fear, we don’t just read it; we pray with it and allow it to transform our hearts. Here are some places in Scripture to look for hope. Memorize a favorite verse to keep God’s hope and peace on the heart and mind.
Pick one of these verses and write it on a sticky note for your mirror, binder, or phone case as a daily reminder.
“Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7).
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight” (Proverbs 3:3-6).
“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light” (Matthew 11:28-30).
“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand” (Isaiah 41:10).
5. Pray
Pray with and for your teens and help them pray for the situation. Prayer with your teen doesn’t have to be complicated. Even a short ‘Hail Mary’ in the car or lighting a candle together reminds them that we always bring our storms to Christ. Other suggestions include, offering a Mass for the victims and those left behind or attending Adoration together as a family. Don’t skip Mass! The priest will likely relate the Gospel to the current situation. This could open the door for a meaningful conversation with your teen. If your teen is really struggling, reach out to the priest about talking with your teen. Remind teens they are not only part of their family of faith at home but also part of a wider community walking with them. We are all part of the Body of Christ.
The prayer for the intercession of St. Michael is perfect in times of tragedy. If we allow anger and grief to overwhelm us, evil wins. Let us close in prayer.
“Saint Michael, the Archangel, defend us in battle.
Be our protection against the wickedness and snares of the devil.
May God rebuke him, we humbly pray;
and do thou, O Prince of the heavenly host, by the power of God cast into hell Satan and all the evil spirits who prowl throughout the world seeking the ruin of souls. Amen. ”
Encourage your teen to talk to their campus minister, a trusted teacher, or join a prayer group at school. Remind them that they are not alone—faith is meant to be lived in community. When the storms of life come, we turn to Christ. He is the only one who can bring true peace. Let us stand together in faith, as families, schools, and a Church.
Blessings! Emily+
Disclaimer: I am not a licensed psychologist or councilor. If you are concerned about your child’s mental, physical, or emotional well-being, please consult a professional.
